A friend asked my perspective on 1 Peter 3:1-6 (specifically verses 3 and 4)?
1 Peter 3:1-6
1 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
Here was my reply:
"Proverbs 31:30 says, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised."
God made you beautiful just the way you are. What matters to Him is your heart. Your husband loves you for who you are too.
However I don't think it says to ignore your outward appearance. I do think that you should try to look nice for your husband and yourself. Proverbs 31:22 says, "she is clothed in fine linen and purple."
"The Wife of Noble Character" is not just clothed. She doesn't have rags or burlap or flannel on. "She is clothed in FINE LINEN and PURPLE." She knows how to shop. She makes a lot of her own things. She is frugal. I can't sew but I can consign. I can thrift shop and look for sales.
"The Wife of Noble Character" looks nice when she is conducting business in the community and she looks nice for her husband. That is not what makes her beautiful though. She is beautiful because she fears the LORD and that is to be praised. :o)"
What is your opinion?